Having occasional fights, conflicts or arguments with your partner is completely natural; but if continued for a long time, can be harmful too. If not resolved in time, then these conflicts can escalate to a bigger problem, leading to the point of separation as well. Disputes in a relationship can happen due to various reasons like bad communication, childhood traumas, jealousy factors, trust issues or others. The way of approaching and navigating them determines a relationship’s strength. Here are some scientifically backed tips by which you can resolve your relationship conflicts.
1. Using the 24-hour rule: The 24-hour rule is one of the highly effective strategies for resolving disputes in a relationship. In this rule, both partners deliberately postpone discussing highly controversial matters until both have calmed down. This gives ample time for the two to reflect on their feelings and have a sensible approach towards an issue. Following this can prevent the issues from rising further. It creates a clear mind among the husband and wife, and allows them to approach the problem with understanding.
2. Creating a safe word: Creating a personalised safe word or signal with your partner can be highly useful for solving conflicts effectively. It offers a meaningful method of communication when either partner needs a break from the discussion. This gives enough time for both partners to start the conversation with a calm and clear perspective. Following this approach can strengthen mutual respect and understanding between the partners in a relationship.
3. Physical Touch- Comfort, warmth, and support through physical touch fosters a sense of security and intimacy in your relationships. This intimacy reduces the stress, even in the most tense arguments.
4. Using videos and writing letters- These methods may seem old-fashioned and naive for many but can be quite useful when both partners are not on talking terms. In many cases, writing letters offers a more structured thought to the emotions in comparison to conversations.
5. Always Emphasise on the ‘I’ Word- Accusing the other partner in an argument is never going to tone down the problem. Instead, try accepting your fault as well and instead of pointing fingers at others, and say ‘I am embarrassed to see this happen.’
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