Stand tall.
Show confidence by putting your shoulders back. Keep your chin level, with your face pointed straight ahead. Walk like you own the world, even if you don't feel like you do. Doing this can help you look poised and confident. Pretend you’re hanging from a string attached to the top of your head.
Make eye contact.
Hold someone’s gaze when you’re talking to them to show dominance. Maintaining eye contact while you’re talking, as well as when another person talks, is a sign of confidence and interest. Avoid checking your phone, staring at the floor, or scanning the room, which can make you appear rude, anxious, or uncomfortable. Try to keep eye contact for at least half of your interaction. As a start, try to make eye contact with someone long enough to find out what color eyes they have.
Be still.
Anxious people often fidget, so try to avoid this to seem confident. Try standing with your feet hip-width apart so you can balance your weight between both legs. This can help you from shifting your weight, fidgeting, or tapping your feet. Keep your legs balanced even when you're sitting. You may appear anxious if your legs are twisted around or tapping.
Take up space.
Fight the urge to make yourself smaller. Avoid leaning forward in your chair or tucking your arms under your armpits. Instead, be expansive and fill out the space around you. This is called power posing. Studies have shown that people who power-posed before interviews felt and came across as more confident. Here are a few simple power poses to try: When sitting down, lean back in your chair and use the armrests if they're available. Stand with your legs shoulder-width apart and place your hands on your hips. Lean against walls instead of slouching. This will unconsciously make it appear as though you own the wall or room.
Use open body language.
Place your hands behind your back, in your pockets, or in your lap. While standing or sitting, keep your hands mostly still. To display confident body language, keep the front of your face and body open instead of closing them off from others. Here are a few suggestions: Clasp your palms together behind your back or head. Stick your hands in your pockets, but show your thumbs. Steeple your fingers together and rest your elbows on a table. This is a very assertive position, best used for negotiations, interviews, and meetings.
Shake hands firmly.
Give a solid handshake to come across as confident and self-assured. Extend your hand to offer the handshake as you approach someone. Grip the other person's hand firmly but not painfully. Pump up and down slightly for 2 or 3 seconds, then release. If you get sweaty palms, keep a tissue in your pocket and discreetly wipe your hand before you offer it.
Make small, occasional hand gestures.
Try not to talk with your hands too often. Emphasizing every word with a hand gesture can come across as anxious or energetic, depending on your culture. Go with occasional, controlled gestures instead. Keep your arms at waist level and make most of your gestures within that space to make you look more credible and professional. Use an open, relaxed palm in social contexts. A rigid palm or fist is very aggressive or dominant, typically used by politicians. Keep your elbows at your side, and gesture with your hands slightly to one side to avoid blocking your body.
Speak slowly and clearly.
Pause a second or two before you speak to show control. If you tend to jumble words in an attempt to rush through what you're saying, especially when you’re nervous, slow down. Taking a breath before you speak gives you time to plan your response, making you appear more relaxed and confident. As empowerment expert Nicolette Tura explains, “Nerves are when you're not present, and you're not trusting, and you're not surrendering, and you're not allowing, which blocks the flow of your breath. So, what can you do to address nerves? Breathe.”
Smile often.
Flash a bright smile to appear warm, friendly, and approachable. Studies have shown that people like and remember other people who smile at them. As life coach Sandra Possing explains, “When you smile, it changes your brain chemistry, and you will feel happier as a result.” If you have trouble keeping a natural smile, just give a brief smile and return to a more neutral expression. Laughter is another good way to display and boost confidence when appropriate. However, avoid a constant giggle, which can come across as nervous or overbearing.
Stop apologizing.
Believe in yourself and your choices to feel more confident. If you constantly apologize, even for trivial things, do your best to break the cycle. When you catch yourself saying, “I’m sorry,” ask yourself why—why are you apologizing? It may be necessary to apologize in certain situations, but you don’t have to apologize for being yourself. For instance, say you have a question during a work meeting; rather than saying, “I’m sorry, but can you clarify…?” try, “Can you clarify…?” This response shows that you’re confident in your question.
Treat others with respect.
Respect others to show that you’re a confident individual. Treating others with respect shows that you value them as people, you're not threatened by them, and you're confident in who you are. Instead of gossiping about someone, avoid engaging in the drama. This shows that you're comfortable with your own opinions and beliefs.
Look your best to feel your best.
Take good care of yourself to feel confident in your own skin. Your hygiene, attire, and health are all worth the effort, and not just for yourself, but for others as well. First impressions are very powerful, and looking sharp can help you appear confident right away. Plus, if you look confident on the outside, it can help boost your self-esteem so you feel confident on the inside. This isn’t to say you must look a certain way to appear confident. Simply wear what you want to wear to feel your best! Spend time each day pampering yourself to boost your confidence.
Appreciate yourself for who you are.
Learn to love yourself build self-confidence. Confidence and power come from within you, so build your confidence by loving yourself. Remember, you are a special, talented person, and plenty of people want to see you thrive. If you're struggling to believe in or love yourself, make a list of your accomplishments and greatest attributes. Leah Morris, a life and relationship transition coach, suggests telling yourself positive affirmations in the mirror. Try saying how “You're going to nail this; you're going to be fine at the end of all this; everything is happening just as it should for you; you're smart; you're capable.”
Learn to manage your fear.
Take a deep breath and tell yourself, “I can do this.” People who lack confidence are often afraid of making a mistake. When you start to doubt yourself, remind yourself of how strong you are. Everyone makes mistakes, but it’s how you come back from them that really matters. Instead of looking at a mistake as a failure, look at it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Try deep breathing exercises to help calm your nerves in the moment and appear more confident. Start a journal to put stressful and anxious thoughts on paper. Practice meditating and mindfulness to help boost your self-esteem and ease stress.
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