IFS Officer Reveals How He Helped His IIT Batchmate Move On From 'Painful Breakup'

Relationships can get complicated and sometimes we have to make hard choices like ending a partnership. Yet, these difficult decisions often leave us grappling with the challenge of moving forward. Recently, Himanshu Tyagi, an Indian Forest Service (IFS) officer, shared how he helped a fellow batchmate at the IIT in overcoming a painful breakup.

“IIT days. A friend had a bad breakup. Couldn’t move on. Each day, he vowed to cut contact but kept calling her. He wasted 3+ years until he found a new partner. Why? All day, he was on his phone, digging up memories,” the IFS officer shared on social media platform X (formerly Twitter).

“It’s not just about a broken relationship. Clinging to anything from the past destroys our lives. The more we cling to our past, the more difficult it becomes to move on,” he further added.

Breaking down his advice into steps, Tyagi first suggested, “Make up your mind. First, resolve to move on from your past. In full clarity.”

In his second point, he advised, “Cut off all cues. Remove anything that may remind you of your past. E.g. gifts, books, photos etc. So many good things in life. Why waste emotions on something irrelevant?”

Tyagi emphasized the importance of self-investment, stating, “Invest in yourself. You should invest heavily in yourself rather than trying to forget your past. Invest your time in your health, and skills. Memories would slowly get erased.”

Lastly, he recommended, “Timely reminders. Put some reminders in place to keep you on track. Write down your story. Ask a friend to point you out when you stray.”

About Himanshu Tyagi

Himanshu Tyagi, an Indian Forest Service (IFS) officer from the 2020 batch, is known for his guidance and motivation for aspiring candidates of the Union Public Service Commission (UPSC) and Joint Entrance Examination (JEE). Himanshu guides the candidates with his social media and educational seminars and often shares insights on how they can clear these examinations.

Earlier, Himanshu had openly shared about his initial failure in the IIT-JEE attempt. However, he later “turned the pain into energy” and secured admission to IIT Roorkee. In addition to his personal experience, Tyagi also shared important tips and strategies for students preparing for IIT exams. His post garnered significant attention and praise from online users.